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Q: Why did you become a wedding officiant?
A: I have a background in facilitation and public speaking, and people started to request for me to perform their wedding ceremonies. A few ears later, it became a business which gives me the privilege of being with people when they are at their happiest. I also get to work in places like this:
Q: What are your credentials? Are you ordained?
A: My background in facilitation and public speaking and facilitation provides me with the skills to work with couples to plan and perform their weddings. My ordination is through Universal Life Church. Just for fun, I am also ordained as a Dudeist Priest with The Church of the Latter-Day Dude. If you are a fan of “The Big Lebowski”, I am willing to perform your ceremony while wearing a bathrobe. My wife thinks I look a little like Jeff Bridges.
Q: How many weddings have you performed?
A: More than 80, as of December of 2015.
Q: What do you think is your main responsibility as a wedding officiant?
A: I see my role as a Master of Ceremonies crossed with a Counselor mixed with an Agent of the State. Your wedding ceremony is an opportunity to make a statement about yourselves. My job is to help you make that statement. I keep things moving, I keep things calm, and I make sure the legal paperwork is filled out correctly.
Q: Do you offer pre-marital counseling or marriage classes?
A: No, I do not.
Q: Do you offer a free introductory meeting where we can get to know each other and discuss our plans?
Q: Do you have a written agreement or contract?
A: Yes. You shouldn't use a vendor for your wedding who does not have a contract.
Q:What is your deposit and cancellation policy?
A: A non-refundable deposit of $100.00 for The Full Ceremony (or full payment of The Small Ceremony is required for me to start working on your ceremony and to secure my services for the date and time of your wedding.
Q: What is your fee, and what does your fee include?
A: I keep my fee structure simple. I charge $200.00 to officiate a full, customized wedding (The Full Ceremony), and $125.00 to officiate an elopement-style ceremony with minimal customization (The Small Ceremony).
Q: Will there be extra charges for rehearsal?
A: A: Yes. I do charge $100.00 to attend a rehearsal. I
Q: How much interaction can we expect leading up to the wedding? Are you available for questions?
A: Of course! I don't understand why officiants would limit the number of questions that can come from couples, or even worse, charge more if they go over a set number of questions. Let's communicate as much as is necessary to get the details right. Yes, please ask all of the questions you want.
Q: Can we personalize the ceremony by writing our own vows and/or selecting specific readings?
A: I hope you do. If you have selected The Full Ceremony, then creating your wedding ceeremony will be a collaborative process between the three of us. If you have selected The Small Ceremony, please write your own vows, and I will leave room in the cereomny for you to say them to each other.
Q: How long does the average wedding ceremony last?
A: About five to 20 minutes, depending on what is included in the ceremony.
Q: Can you do personalized rituals within the ceremony, e.g, Hand Blessing, Wine Box Ceremony, Unity Candle, or Sand Ceremony (uniting of your two families)?
A: Yes, absolutely! A unity ceremony is part of The Full Ceremony option, if you want it. I have performed candle and sand unity ceremonies, wine box ceremonies, handfasting ceremonies and a Native American smudging ceremony. I am always willing to learn new ceremonies.
Q: What is your wedding officiant attire?
A: That depends on what you are wearing. I have performed weddings wearing jeans, beach-casual wear, Hawaiian wear, the traditional suit, and dressed as an officiant in the 1800s. I usually base what I wear off of what the couple is weraring. When in doubt, I wear a suit. What do you have in mind?
Q: Will you be responsible for delivering the license to the county after the ceremony?
A: Yes, that is part of the service I provide.
Q: Is there anything you are not comfortable doing in our ceremony?
A: I don't feel that the story of a couples' life story has a place in the wedding ceremony. I have always felt that those stories are best told by friends and family during the reception.
Q; Can we specify ceremony details such as music, readings, and vows?
A: If we are doing The Full Ceremony, absolutely! For The Small Ceremony option, I can create a space in the ceremony for you to exchange vows or say special words to each other.
Q: Would you like to join us at the reception?
A: An invite is always appreciated, but the odds are I have to be running off to perform another wedding.
Q: What is the funniest or oddest moment in a wedding you celebrated?
A: An eight-year old ring bearer did not realize that the rings on the pillow he was holding were fake until I asked, “Who holds the rings?” He proudly held the pillow up, just as the best man reached over him to hand me the rings. As the boy’s head fell, I had never heard a wedding party say “Awwwwwww,” so loudly.
Q: What is the best compliment a wedding guest ever gave you?
A: A bride’s 86-year-old grandmother told me, “You did such a wonderful job, you can perform my next wedding ceremony.”